Preface

            I am writing this blog both to alleviate my own suffering but to also help those like me who are experiencing extreme grief. I will start off by saying that everyone has their own way of dealing with grief but it is a very personal experience. The best way to overcome it is to find inner strength rather than depend on other people to guide you out of misery. For those who are reading this as a way to try and help those who are grieving, the best advice I can give you is to accept that as much as you want to 'cure' a mourning friend or family member the extent to which you can do so is limited. The best way you can help is to be there for them when they ask but to give them their space when they need it. In time they will find themselves again and be stronger and wiser but in the moment they may feel more content in their sadness than in fabricated happiness. Thus if someone experiencing grief avoids their friends it does not mean that they devalue them but rather it is a sign that they are not ready to be happy again. When they are ready they will refind happiness on their own.

The title of this blog was inspired by this TED talk on grief that a good friend of mine shared with me. Follow the link below if you wish to watch it.
http://widowedvillage.org/forum/topics/video-ted-talk-about-grief